I cried myself to sleep last night. Rachel’s public fight and now heartbreak is shared by all who have morals. Our leaders failed us, Rachel— who represents all the mothers of hostages.
"To blame is to believe that things could’ve happened otherwise. Blame carves a path through despair—if we know where to direct our anger, we believe we can change course. It’s one way to keep hope alive."
Love this. I think of blame as activation energy in the body-- a fight response, in trauma terms-- and it makes sense to me that while fighting, hope is possible. To stop fighting is to just be left with grief.
I loved it, too. I even restacked it. And guilt, which is self-blame, is the feeling that "I could have done more." More than anger, that's been my reaction. As a religious person, it kind of always is.
It’s not selfish at all to care about your husband’s heart. It’s what’s right in front of you and one of your most powerful relationships. I hear your tired heart and ache, I’m with you on that. I have written a lot about it and decide not to post because of fear of the “what about” and decide it’s not worth it. I know where I stand, where my values reside and what the truth is. I invite conversations rather than text board warrior conversations where we meet with compassion and kindness … well, hopefully. We can hold both/and together as it will always be.
I don't think it's selfish, I think it's human and we need to stay human right now. Wishing your husband a full recovery.
The last year has been a rollercoaster of good and bad for my wife and me in real life and it's been rendered more intense by what is happening in Israel, and on the streets here, going on in the background.
I cried myself to sleep last night. Rachel’s public fight and now heartbreak is shared by all who have morals. Our leaders failed us, Rachel— who represents all the mothers of hostages.
I hope hubby’s heart heals.
Amen.
"To blame is to believe that things could’ve happened otherwise. Blame carves a path through despair—if we know where to direct our anger, we believe we can change course. It’s one way to keep hope alive."
Love this. I think of blame as activation energy in the body-- a fight response, in trauma terms-- and it makes sense to me that while fighting, hope is possible. To stop fighting is to just be left with grief.
I loved it, too. I even restacked it. And guilt, which is self-blame, is the feeling that "I could have done more." More than anger, that's been my reaction. As a religious person, it kind of always is.
It’s not selfish at all to care about your husband’s heart. It’s what’s right in front of you and one of your most powerful relationships. I hear your tired heart and ache, I’m with you on that. I have written a lot about it and decide not to post because of fear of the “what about” and decide it’s not worth it. I know where I stand, where my values reside and what the truth is. I invite conversations rather than text board warrior conversations where we meet with compassion and kindness … well, hopefully. We can hold both/and together as it will always be.
Thank you, Shelley ❤️🙏🏻❤️
I don't think it's selfish, I think it's human and we need to stay human right now. Wishing your husband a full recovery.
The last year has been a rollercoaster of good and bad for my wife and me in real life and it's been rendered more intense by what is happening in Israel, and on the streets here, going on in the background.
Thanks, Daniel. I wish you and your wife all the best. 🙏🏻
Thank you!
Grief takes so many forms. Sharing that with your readers makes room for all our responses.